Parenting with Mercy, Balance Rooted in Islamic Teachings: Academic
“From the viewpoint of Islam, love and mercy are essential tools in raising children,” Masoumeh Sadat Tabatabai told IQNA.
She referred to verse 159 of Surah Al-Imran in the Quran, where God tells the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH): “Had you been harsh and hard-hearted, they would have scattered from around you.” She explained that this verse illustrates the necessity of kindness, even in leadership roles, and especially in parenting.
She added that divine instructions to other prophets also stress the importance of careful and respectful speech—even when addressing enemies—highlighting how emotional influence is a vital element of effective communication. “Without these emotional tools, we cannot expect our words and actions to resonate with children in a meaningful or lasting way,” she said.
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Tabatabai also discussed the broader Islamic principle of justice, which she described as central to every aspect of life, including worship and family relations. “Islam is a religion built on comprehensive justice,” she said, citing Quranic teachings that encourage fairness in all acts, including charity.
She shared a story about Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) observing a companion who had withdrawn from family life to devote himself entirely to worship. According to Tabatabai, “The Prophet (PBUH) did not approve. He taught that a true believer is someone whose actions are balanced and just—not one who neglects family or social responsibilities in favor of single-minded devotion.”
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In the context of parenting, she warned against extremes. “Controlling behavior, harshness, constant interrogation, or even excessive affection—none of these approaches are effective on their own,” she said. Instead, she advocated for a parenting style that blends balanced discipline with emotional warmth and a strong sense of justice.
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